Infidelity has been around since the birth of monogamy. But there’s often great confusion about why people cheat on their partners.
Partners I speak with who have cheated, struggling to understand their actions, wonder why they did so. Betrayed partners wish to understand how the affair happened so that they can be sure they’re never hurt again.
In the best case scenario in which both partners want to reconcile and save their relationship, coming to a mutual understanding of why the cheating occurred is crucial to healing.
Still, betrayal hurts. Badly. Understanding any experience that we have had can, in time, make that experience more bearable. That includes affairs.
So why do people cheat?