Demystifying the Power of Porn

demystifying the power of pornHave you ever wondered why porn seems so powerful? Has this power left you feeling helpless, lost, and confused? Keep reading to begin demystifying the power of porn.

 

If your answer is yes to one or both of the above questions I can assure you that you are not alone.

 

In many ways the “power” of porn feels like this big entity out in the world that many, including you and I, are vulnerable to just fall prey to. I know I certainly used to feel this way about porn, that somehow I needed to escape the force of what felt like an emotional, spiritual, and mental gravitational pull toward momentary pleasure followed by one hundred times the emotional and relational pain it would surely cause in my life.

 

Is the Power Internal or External?

What if I told you that “power” is actually something which is subject to your control instead of the other way around?

 

What if that force that feels so looming and inevitable is actually a normal function of your mind that you have the God-given capacity and ability to train?

 

What if I told you that the energy which moves you toward porn, which you and I have tried to escape, does not actually need to be escaped, but instead repurposed to move you toward building thriving relationships, toward knowing and being known more fully by those you love?

I believe this energy and force is more internal than it is external, meaning what you are feeling when confronted with that seemingly inescapable draw toward consuming porn are actually emotions meant to move you toward intimacy with others.

Further, I believe these emotions, although often uncomfortable, are elements of your life which can serve as tools to facilitate rich and rewarding relationships with your community of friends, partner, or family.

 

The Opportunity

On what grounds can I justifiably make the assertion that something which has caused so much pain and distress in my own and others lives is not as mysterious and powerful as it has felt for so many?

 

That is a good question, and the answer has to do in part with the neurobiology of our brain’s natural response to anxiousness, stress, and other distressing emotions. That is not to say that just because our brain’s natural response to distress moves us toward porn justifies our consumption of it (that would be like me justifying eating pistachio ice cream for breakfast, lunch, and dinner because my brain’s natural craving for it is telling me to do so).

Rather, becoming mindful and aware of our brain’s natural responses toward distress lends us the opportunity to select adaptive ways of regulating our distress.

Similarly, my awareness of my brain’s constant craving for pistachio ice cream when I am hungry lends me the opportunity to respond to that hunger with a balanced diet which will ultimately result in a greater sense of wellness than if I were to simply give in to my craving for pistachio ice cream.

 

If you want to find out more about these and a few other thoughts about the power of porn, check out my blog post here on my website.

 

 

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Spencer Posey
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I am based out of Ventura County, California where both my wife and I were born and raised. I am grateful to serve the members of the Ventura County, and surrounding communities through my work as a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist. My more specific professional interests include helping others find freedom porn addiction, helping couples embody hope and trust in their relationships, employing EMDR services, and providing psychoeducation surrounding the study of interpersonal neurobiology. On a more personal note, my non-professional interests include running, camping, and exploring new culinary experiences with my wife and friends.I am a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (#121457), supervised by Jeremy Mast, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (#90961).

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